Cats are self-serving while humans are always looking for that special bond. I love cats but if I wanted closer companionship I would get a dog.
I told Inky to wiggle his ears once if he understood.He did it! I'm only nine!
I call my cat to snuggle, and if he feels up to it, he comes on over. Both my cats know their names. If they're yowling for food, and I tell them to just wait a moment, they stop and wait by their dish.
My cats have both saved my life, without any training, command, or anything. I like that they are independent creatures, relying more on intuition than extensive training. And who else would eat that pesky little troll that sneaks in and tries to eat my spirit?
I have trained horses, parrots, llamas, dogs and cats.
As pack animals, most of these species are hard-wired to picking up on the sounds and body language of their pack --once upon a time for their very survival.
A cat is different and most people simply are not intuitive enough to notice and work with that subtle difference. However, if treated according to their needs and with deference to their fears as both predator and prey animals, and with empathic and true love-- I have found them easily trainable to come, roll over, jump in and out of things or to my arms on command, as well as much more complex behaviors such as sliding upside down a tube into my hands with total trust. A trusting cat loves a belly scratch, too, like any dog.
Dogs are a cake walk of butt-kissing trainability by nature. But most people just don't care enough, or are not smart enough to have that sort of special bond with an animal like a cat. It you can't it is not your fault any more than it is the feline's. You both simply have limited mental facilities to work with. No insult intended, simple truth.
I think your cat perceives that you are trying to communicate, although it won't understand the words or concepts, but it will understand your mood very well, maybe even better than you do yourself. This is why animals are being used in therapies for people with problems so much now.
Yes, i am one of those people that talks to their cats, i think that they can. At least they are able to pick up emotions and tones of voice.